Don’t put your happiness into someone else’s hands, they’ll drop it. They’ll drop it every time. You see, the truth that so many people seem to miss is that happiness doesn’t start with a relationship, a job or a degree. It starts with your thoughts and what you tell yourself everyday.
We get so worried about being happy, that we end up missing out on happiness altogether. We need to stop waiting for that magical moment of pure bliss and start enjoying whatever little fragments of happiness you can find. It’s turning up the volume when the radio plays your favourite song, cooking your favourite meal, the feeling of the sun on your skin, it’s finishing a book, the ache in your stomach from laughing so hard.
Don’t get me wrong, there are some things you won’t get over. Some things that will sting you so hard they will set you back to where you started. And you will hurt and hurt and hurt, but you will also rise from it. You will learn from the past you wil adapt and you will survive, trust me on this. You will shape your own reality and accept how you should never settle for anything less than you deserve.
I’ve made some really smart moves throughout my life, and I’ve also made some really fucking dumb ones. I’ve repeated some of the same mistakes a good twenty miserable times before I finally learned my lesson – and so what? Does this make me a bad person? Does it make me any less deserving of good thing or good people around me? No. What it makes me, is a woman on a journey towards her purpose in this world.
Whatever is going on in your life, it’s okay. It’s okay if you’re confused, if you’re hurt, if you don’t even know who you are and what you’re doing. It’s okay to be lost and it’s okay to be hurt. Because when you look back it’s not the moments that you felt lost and unsure that you’ll remember. It’ll be those moments after – like how you found something that you have fallen in love with and you’ve made it your life’s work. It’ll be what those dark moments led you to.
You see, this world is afraid of women like you, a woman with a heart big enough to house suitcases of pain, a woman with a laugh so therapeutic it can heal wounds, a woman with passion fierce enough to start wildfires. The world is afraid of what it can’t tame and understand. But despite all of that, you need to know that your happiness is within yourself. You deserve to be in spaces that make you happy, that feeds your soul. You are worthy of connections that are loving, nourishing and genuine.
Remind yourself every day that the places you visit and the people you journey with through life should make you feel safe, loved and enough, but even then, don’t put your happiness into someone else’s hands – it starts with your thoughts and what you tell yourself everyday.