Do you work hard every day? Do you spend all your energy on making a living? And do you also feel drained at the end of the day? If so, there’s something wrong that needs fixing. And the solution is easier than you might think. I know this because I used to plant myself in front of the TV every evening with a bag of chips. I often felt tired and unhappy for no apparent reason.
All my life I believed that everything I do has only one goal: to be happy. So I was doing a lot of things, all of them with that thought in my mind. But because I was doing so much I wasn’t happy. I was overworked – because I was trying to prove I’m good at my job. I was stressed, because of the fear of under-performing that might not lead to a promotion, that might not lead to a better salary that might not lead to more money that might not make happy.
I was doing so many things at once in the search of this thing called “happiness” that I didn’t find it at all, and all the things I were doing? Well, I couldn’t do them properly, so I it made me even more unhappy. (I mean look at the quality [or lack thereof] of my blogs lately) – no time for proper research, proper writing or even proper self reflection.
I missed the signs that were there all along. Try and look out for it in your own day to day to make sure that you aren’t so focus on an end goal, that you are close to exploding and missing the goal entirely.
Let’s be honest. If you’re currently not enjoying your life, and you’re not waking up every morning with a sense of excitement, you need to do something about it.
You deserve to live a good life. The people in your life deserve that as well.
Signs that the bubble is about to burst:
- Short tempered and always rushed. Even if you’re n your way to a chilled walk on the beach, a slow car in front of you triggers you.
- You’re forgetful, someone will ask you to do something for them, and you forget about it the second they walk away. The first time you remember again is tonight at 1 Am when you’re finally dozing off, and BOOM it hits you like cold water that you haven’t even given their request a second thought.
- Sleep deprivation. No matter how early you go to bed, you just can’t fall asleep. Your head is rushing and you’re thinking about a million different things, work, life, love, happiness, colleagues, friends, the shop assistants nose, the dishes, Sharon’s hair, life quotes and clothes – all. at. once.
- Unhealthy lifestyle. You never feel like looking after your body because you do not have the headspace to think about it. You skip meals during the day, drink too much coffee, and when you finally feel like fainting, you grab anything edible and gulp it down just so you can get back to it. You have a gym membership you rarely use.
- Excuses. “I’m not skipping meals, it’s intermittent fasting” “Things are just busy at work” “It’s just my hormones, the mood will blow over” “I never forget these things, this is a one time thing” and on and on.
We need to remember that we need to take care of ourselves first. We can’t be there for other people we aren’t in a good mind-space ourselves. I can 100% guarantee you that your level of happiness is dependent on your level of energy.
Here’s the solution!
Journaling. Yip, you’re going to have to invest the time.
Ask yourself these questions, and note the answers to pick up the trend:
- Why am I in a good mood today?
- Why am I in a shitty mood today?
- Why am I happy in this moment?
- Why am I stressed right now?
Soon enough you will pick up the pattern:
High energy: Good mood
Low energy: Shit mood
The reason it’s important to jot down your moods and feelings for the day, is so you can establish:
- “What activities destroy my mood and drain my energy?”
- “What activities make me feel good and give energy?”
You need to realise and accept that you won’t always be in a good mood, and that’s okay. But take control before the bubble bursts, and focus your energy on the things that matter to you, things that somehow makes you happy, or contributes towards your happiness.
Start now by asking yourself: “What’s the one thing I can do today to improve my mood?”
Ask yourself the same question tomorrow.