What adulting feels like


So when you’re still living with your parents you have no idea that anything costs any money, and you think that your bio test tomorrow is the kind of ‘stress’ that can kill you. And then you move into your own place and shit gets real. So if complete independence is still in front of you and you are ready to embark on the adult adventure. Here’s an idea of what it’s been like for me the past 18 months:

My to-do list:

  • Buy groceries
  • Pay bills
  • Clean our apartment


My daily grocery list:

  • Bananas
  • Nutella
  • Milk
  • Popcorn
  • Cheese
  • More cheese
  • More bananas
  • Nuts
  • Yogurt
  • Coconut milk
  • Coconut oil
  • Coconut cream
  • Coconut

Public places I’ve cried

  • At both my previous jobs
  • At McDonalds
  • In front of a hospice
  • At the vet
  • Going to the airport
  • Leaving the airport
  • At a hospital
  • At a police station
  • In the que at Woolworths
  • In the mall
  • At a bar
  • Close to a 100 times in my car

I also phone my Mom 10 times a day to ask her things like:

  • How do I remove stains from clothing
  • How do I remove stains from a carpet
  • How do I cook a roast
  • How do I fold a fitted sheet
  • Where can I buy good towels
  • Where can I get that funny green soap she uses
  • How much wine am I allowed to drink before 12:00


Things I’ve googled

  • How to be a good wife
  • How to cook pork necks
  • Can I die from too little sleep?
  • Symptoms of burnout
  • Why is adulting so hard?
  • Help me with my tax
  • Help me with my tax please
  • What’s the minimum amount I can have in my cheque account
  • How to save money
  • What is a kidney worth?
  • Signs of alcoholism
  • Signs of being a terrible adult
  • Is a quarter life crisis a real thing?
  • How to google

Things you need to make life easier:

  • A soulmate
  • A car
  • An apartment
  • A job
  • A cellphone
  • A bottle of wine
  • Friends
  • Patience
  • The internet
  • WiFi

My survival kit:

  • To-do lists
  • Coffee
  • Reminders on my phone
  • My Bible
  • My amazing supportive husband
  • Self-help books


  • Hangovers take 7 days longer than usual to go away
  • You often shop according to price not quality
  • You eat things you never thought you would
  • You lose a lot of friends, and make a lot of new ones
  • You’re always thinking of ways to better your life mentally, physically and financially
  • You prioritise everything.

Suddenly my life is filled with paying bills, always thinking about money, and drinking way too much wine. It’s sucks, it’s difficult, it’s challenging, and it’s like working on a device without reading the manual. It’s like playing a game when you didn’t do the tutorial first. But it’s also great. You do what you want, how you want, with who you want. You struggle but you learn. You fail but you keep trying. You suck but you grow. So I can really say I’m almost adulting. Almost. And it’s fun, and scary, and great and everything mashed together.

4 thoughts on “What adulting feels like

  1. hahaha awsome post ess lol loved it!!!! my dag gemaak en dis bje waar add a child en dit raak twice as difficult

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