So my husband and I were talking about all the things we want to get out of life. What our success will look like, what we plan on doing to get there, and how other people have done it.
We have various icons we look up to, including people like Gary Vaynerchuk, Casey Neistat and Tom Peters.
And you know the one thing these people have in common? Success. And funny enough not one of them took the same road to get there.
Let’s start with Gary Vaynerchuk, he grew up poor and hated school, he was a born business man that sold lemonade and baseball cards as a kid, and saw a gap in the wine market when YouTube first started, and it was all history form there. (Really recommend you check his stuff out!)
Casey Neistat, troubled child and film maker, soon making videos for Mercedes and Nike. Internet famous, especially since he has been making daily Vlogs on YouTube.
Tom Peters, worked for the navy, then at the White House, and became a successful business man from there.
The conclusion I’m getting to, is that there is no one-size-fits-all road to success. There are a million ways to be successful, you just have to find the one that fits your life goals, abilities, life stage and needs.
It can be done in a few simple steps. Here they are:
1. Be completely sure of what your strengths are
For example, if you have the ability to be extremely efficient, be sure to make that one of the things that will help you achieve your goal, such as managing various tasks at once, setting your goals up as a to-do list and executing them as fast as possible. Everyone has strengths, find out what it is, and use it to your advantage, no one can take it away from you, and this will be your competitive advantage.
2. Identify the end goal
How you identify your end goal is up to you. I see myself on a yacht with my husband and two kids, working on my online business while sipping a cocktail. Someone else might have a monetary value, you might have a time limit. Whatever it is, define it, and write it down, I’m not joking, write it on a piece of paper and put it somewhere you can see it often, like on the fridge, at your mirror or bedside table.
Think about this goal, if it changes, change it, it’s your life, and you can change your mind however you like.
3. Adjust your life
Once you have identified your end goal and your strengths, you need to design a strategy for yourself of how you are going to achieve these things.
The only way to design a stratgey is to create a valid starting point. You can’t see yourself on a yacht but you’re housewife. You will need to make the necessary changes to your life to start working towards that goal, and use your strengths to do so.
Let’s use the example of the Mrs. Efficient again. If you are highly efficient and you are working as a secretary. Be sure to do your work as quickly and diligently as possible. Once it is done, don’t go onto YouTube and watch Cat videos, use the remaining time to study up on the place you want to be. So if you wish to become a writer, read up on all the ways you can become one, engage on platforms where similar people are. Make friends. I can’t express this enough. If you want to become a writer, for example, join book clubs, and write short stories on platforms such as Medium. Use your time to do exactly what you want to become, don’t spend it on a Vampire Diaries marathon.
4. Talk about it
There will come a time when this goal will feel out of reach and stupid. Find someone that has the ability to be open-minded, someone that will really listen when you talk to them. I am lucky that this is my husband, perhaps yours is your mother or best friend or the bus driver, but find someone with who you can reflect this goal and how far you are towards reaching it.
Sometimes it’s good to hear your life out loud and to reflect. You often identify changes you need to make, or become more motivated, realizing you are on the right path.
5. Take action everyday
Every. Single. DAY. Don’t skip one single day where you are not doing something that helps you reach your goal. Gary Vaynerchuk made Wine Library videos for months and months with no one watching them, he worked every single day, and the return came a few years later.
If he skipped one day, it could’ve become two or three, and he would just slot into the comfort zone of not doing the work.
Find something to do everyday, whether it is to read an article on your interested direction, or to write about it in your diary, or to daydream. Just don’t stop.
“I want to be a doctor when I grow up.”
6. Embrace reality
Lastly. Shit happens.
You will have setbacks. People will tell you you are crazy, your business venture might fail, a family member might die. Life happens.
And life is fair, simply because it is unfair to everybody.
So when life knocks you over, get back up, dust of your clothes, readjust your crown, and try again. And never stop. If you see that you can’t do it, adjust your goal, adjust your strategy, reassess your strengths, and try again.
Never ever quit. We only have this one chance to make something of ourselves. Be sure to leave a legacy. A legacy where people will refer to you as someone that did exactly what they always dreamed of doing.
So there you have it. Now take action!
Sincerely, a goal driven enthusiast.