Where have I been?

Here’s some perspective on all of it: Entrepreneurship, Life, Health and Time Management .

I’ve been receiving phone calls over the past few days, from concerned friends and family asking if I’m still alive. I’ve been of the grid for almost 2 months. So I’m simply sharing my thoughts, and sharing where I’ve been over  the past few weeks. The reasons why I haven’t been writing blogs, why I haven’t responded to more than 200 Whatsapp’s, phone calls and personal emails.

Well, I’ve been busy lately, working 14 hours a day, sometimes even 18 hours day. Waking up at 3:45 to work, and going to bed at around 22:00 pm. Working seven days a week, non-stop.

Will this get better? I don’t know.

Is it worth it? I don’t know.

I’ve been mismanaging my work-life balance, and so, I’m back. I’m trying to get a grip on things. And I’m writing this to warm whoever is leading the same lifestyle, to stop, and take a breath, and analyse your life.

I am all for building a career and a business, and dedicating most of your life to reaching the goals you set for yourself, but you need to stop and ask yourself: “For what?” You need to know why you are doing this, and you need to ask what you’re sacrificing at the cost of it?

I have no time to exercise, I get little sleep, I eat whatever is available at that moment, whether it’s day old pizza, cold coffee or a bowl of oats. I haven’t painted my nails in weeks, and I’m just surviving. Working and surviving. Luckily I have had the chance to spend most if this time working closely with my husband, so our relationship has not suffered under this, but things have been crazy, and I really need to take a step back.

During this crazy time I learnt a lot about myself, especially my weaknesses. I learnt that I need at least 30 hours sleep a week to function productively daily. I learnt that I can handle stressful situations very well, but I’ll breakdown the moment it’s over, crying, dealing with it, and moving on. I avoid conflict, and I’m willing to spend and lose a lot of money to avoid it, sometimes at the cost of my business. I’ve learnt that there’s terrible customers, and great customers. I’ve learnt that colleagues can be friends and enemies, sometimes at the same time. I’ve learnt that no one will work as hard for your business as you, and no one will do anything for you, unless they can gain something from it. Nothing is free, nothing is perfect, and no one really knows what they’re doing. They’re making it up as they go.

I learnt the power of caffeine, and the power of talking about things. I learnt how to keep track of a million things. I learnt how to manage, I learnt to deal with difficult social situations. I’ve learnt how to care for a team, and how to lead a team. I’ve learnt a million things, but I’ve lost just as much. I’ve lost time, sleep, friends and events. I’ve lost weekends, weight and perspective.

I think I’m only sharing this as a heads up to whoever is entering s crazy busy time in their life so they can build their career or business.

Why are you doing it? What do you want to achieve? And what are you willing to sacrifice for it? Set those standards, and don’t deviate from them, not once, not even a little. It’s a downward spiral if you do.

If you’re spending an excessive amount of time working, you need to reevaluate what you’re doing. Find solutions. We’re moving closer to work, to commute for shorter periods of time. I’m forcing myself to stop working at around 18:00 and I’m forcing myself to only get out of bed at 04:30, even when I wake up earlier. I’m trying to eat better, and rest over weekends. If you are where I am, start small, make little changes to get your life under control. Make to-do lists, and stick to them, don’t do more or less. Take control of your day and take it one day at a time.

And if someone treats you like crap, remember, it’s not personal, they’re also only trying to get the job done. We’re all human here. You matter, but you need to matter to yourself most.

Talk to people, be aware of CTS and try to move around as much as possible, especially if you spend most of your day at a desk like I do. Take up yoga, go to the gym, eat less carbs, and try to talk to your family and friends as much as possible. They care, and they’re worried.

It’s all worth it, I know, but don’t lose perspective of what really matters. Long after you have completed that project, your friends and family will still be there. They matter, and you matter, take care of your health first, body, mind and soul. Then focus on your goals, and crush them, like you know only you can.

And finally, remember, you’re not alone.


 

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