In the past 12 months I’ve been faced with a various obstacles, where I had to make decision under pressure, and most of the time, it was life changing decisions. I stopped my studies, I didn’t do my honors, I made career changes, moved to a new home, got married (best decision of them all!) and many other decisions (I even cut all my hair yesterday!).
We choose our paths in life everyday. Daily we are faced with decision where you have to choose the one the other. We are more in control than we think, that is why regret exists. You make a decision, and if it was the wrong one, along the road you realize it, and regret it.
When I was in school we did a poem named The Road not Taken by Robert Frost. It goes like this:
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
Beautiful isn’t it?
When we are faced with the fork in the road we need to choose. The one or the other. And when we make a decision you can’t turn back on that road and go back.
These decision can be small, like cutting your hair, or what to eat. Or it can be life changing decisions like career changes or moving to a new town.
But we should never ever regret the decisions we make. Regret paralyzes you. It breaks down your self-confidence, and creates self-doubt. Remember that when you made that decision, it was exactly what you wanted at that moment. You are never forced to choose, otherwise there wouldn’t have been a choice. You choose your life, you choose your circumstances, you choose your destiny.
But sometimes we have to make decision, and you honestly have no idea which one to choose. I am facing a major life decision now, and I am unsure of what I want out of it, and what I want the end result to be. But it always makes me think back of a quote a read. It said:
“When you have to make a hard decision, flip a coin. Why? Because when that coin is in the air, you suddenly know what you are hoping for.”
Choose the road less traveled, don’t make decisions based on what everyone around you is advising, doing or hoping for.
The majority of my readers are young, we have a lot of space to make big ass mistakes, and recover from it.
Will you ever know if you’re making the right decision?
You won’t. You’ll never know 100% if it’s the right decision or not. But you’ll at least 100% most definitely get something out of it, even if it’s just the experience. And one day, you might make a decision, and it might end up as juts the right decision at the right time to get you the life you want.
Gary Vaynerchuk says: “A decision is just a single moment in your career. In the scheme of things it really doesn’t matter as long as you’re moving forward. Stop worrying about the things that don’t matter! Trying to figure out whether this is the moment that you “made it” will keep you from moving forward.
And it will make it much harder to decide between everything you have going on. Which option will get me my “moment”? Why will get me “there”? What’s important is that you decided to do anything. And what’s likely is that whatever “moment” you’re looking for hasn’t happened yet. Spend all your time in the in-between space, the time between starting and stopping.”
You haven’t made it or not made it, you’re still busy, So make the decision. Take action. But standing paralyzed in the fork in the road, is the wrong decision.