We’ve all been there. Blue Monday, hopeful Wednesday, finally Friday, dreadful Sunday. It’s so easy for us to slug through the week, wishing for the weekend to arrive. Missing out on 75% of your week, of your life.
I used to do this. Sunday evenings was the worst. Monday mornings I would roll out of bed, eyes still closed. Make some coffee and sit on the couch. Just sit there. Waiting for the dreadful next five days to pass. It went like this for 6 months. Then came the new year. Together with the new year came a new job and a husband.
And I realized that I had to change my way of thinking. I can no longer be negative for 5 days, and then smile for two, and repeat this terrible cycle for the rest of my life.
So I made a list.
Things that I like from Monday to Friday:
- Longer days: Getting up early and seeing the sun rise
- Being up and about before my husband so I can make him a cuppa
- Quiet time before my day starts, to plan and reflect
- Being around other people at work
- Exercising the skills I gained with my degree
- The perfect job
- The perfect work environment
Things that I like weekends
- Late mornings
- Late nights
- No routine
- No gym
- Being alone with my husband
- Being home
- No responsibilities
When I compared these two list, I realized that I liked things that run counter to one another. I liked early morning and late morning, being alone and around people.
We need weekdays. We need it to get shit done, we need it so we can have a purpose. We need it to keep our brains active, to meet new people, to take us out of our comfort zones. To achieve, to exercise, to live.
So now. I get up every morning at 5:30. I make coffee. I sit on the couch. But instead of dreading the week to come. I plan. I plan what I want to achieve for the day and for the week. I plan how. I think of my gym program. What I’ll wear for the day. What I’ll cook tonight. I make a mental list of to do’s. I pray, then I get up and I execute.
I no longer have blue Mondays. Here’s a few tips so you can beat the Monday blues too!
Remember, you’re in control here, so you can decide whether this will be bad day or not. Remember, if you decide that it will be a bad day, you will be on the lookout for bad things, and you’ll most probably find it.
In Act 2 of Hamlet, the Prince is talking to his two friends Rosencrantz and Guildenstern, complaining that for him, Denmark has become a prison. They don’t see it that way at all, and disagree. Hamlet then offers up the cure for his dark mood – although he declines to take it – when he replies: ‘Why, then, ‘tis none to you, for there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.’
Make sure you get some sunlight on your face, listen to music you like on your way to work and practice altruism. There’s a growing body of research that links altruistic behavior with improved health and a greater sense of well-being. Offer someone a genuine compliment.
To be honest, I don’t have any other advice. Blue Mondays, and a dreadful week is all in the mind, so the only thing you really need to do, is to change it.